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Feren's law number 23: - Paint It Black
Living the American dream one heartbreaking piece at a time
Feren's law number 23:
Nobody should be in a supermarket when they find out their aunt has passed of cancer that went undiagnosed until two days previous -- this especially should not happen to a cancer survivor.

More frustrating yet is my family is actively discouraging my use of leave from work to fly to Texas for the service.

It's such a fine line

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yotogi From: yotogi Date: June 24th, 2006 04:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
If you want to talk, you know how to find me.
nekosensei From: nekosensei Date: June 24th, 2006 04:47 pm (UTC) (Link)
doomsey and I both agree that your family is wrong. I wouldn't say it this way, but doomsey says that, if you want to go, than they have no right to tell you that you shouldn't.

Honestly, I think you should go for the sake of your aunt's family. I'm sure they would appreciate the support. By the way, what part of Texas is your aunt from?
stryck From: stryck Date: June 24th, 2006 05:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
That seriously sucks.

linnaeus From: linnaeus Date: June 24th, 2006 05:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm really sorry. If there's anything I can do, whether it's just talking or providing a place for Ra if you end up going out of town, let me know.
From: neowolf2 Date: June 24th, 2006 05:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ugh. My mom died less than two weeks after her cancer was diagnosed, but she knew she was in trouble months before that (not that being quicker to see a doctor would have changed the prognosis; the common form of pancreatic cancer is essentially untreatable.) I recall commenting to Holly, a few months earlier, how old she was suddenly looking. I assume your aunt must have had some idea something bad was happening.
frostyw From: frostyw Date: June 24th, 2006 07:43 pm (UTC) (Link)

*hug* I wish there was something more I could do from here, but I'm around if you need someone to talk to.
shelbystripes From: shelbystripes Date: June 24th, 2006 09:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
If you need crash space or a ride in the Dallas area, I'm here for you, just let me know.
film2edit From: film2edit Date: June 24th, 2006 09:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm not quite sure what to say that folks haven't already said. I'm here if you need someone.
asetwoman From: asetwoman Date: June 24th, 2006 10:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
Shit, that's horrible. I'm very sorry, Feren, and I hope this isn't triggering too many bad memories and fears for you, but I suspect it is at least somewhat. I also hope you do go to Texas if you feel you need to do that. You already know all this, but it's your decision to go or not to go and not anyone else's.

Take care of yourself. Healing thoughts and sympathy for the sudden loss of your aunt to you and your family.

roho From: roho Date: June 25th, 2006 09:19 am (UTC) (Link)
Yikes...*snug*. You know where we are if you need us.
riecka From: riecka Date: June 25th, 2006 12:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm so sorry Feren.. the otter and I send many *snugs* and *hugs* your way!
ben_mouse From: ben_mouse Date: June 25th, 2006 04:11 pm (UTC) (Link)

My thoughts are with you

I cannot speak to what kind of relationship you have with the rest of your family, but when my Grandfather on my dad's side passed, I did call the folks and see if they wanted to come home. They too told me that I didn't have to.

I think that came from a number of different places. I think there was a desire for normalcy, a desire for things to continue on at some sort of regular pace. My grandfather was old-old, and his passing was not unexpected, nor on some levels unwelcome.

I guess all I am trying to say is that if your relationship with your family is otherwise good, then you could probably chock their behavior up to the fact that no one really has a handle yet, even after all these thousands of years, on death. If you want to go, and would feel welcomed once you got there, I would go.
calisi From: calisi Date: June 26th, 2006 07:00 am (UTC) (Link)
*hugs* So sorry to hear that, Fer. My condolences. :(
wakkowarner From: wakkowarner Date: June 26th, 2006 08:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
blee. that's awful news.

hope you're doing okay. be safe if you're travelling.
captain18 From: captain18 Date: June 28th, 2006 09:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
You have our thoughts, friend.
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